When you are mad with someone and hold that feeling close to your heart in lieu of trying to communicate your feelings with them, instead of desiring to eradicate the anger from between you, instead of seeking after what is good and right, you choose death instead of life. Because festering in our own emotions of infuriation lead only to bitterness, leads only to broken friendships, leads only to everything that is not love, leads to the opposite of what is life.